I hope things are getting better for you. Good luck with everything. Let us know how your doing.
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by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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And everything MRSJONES5 said is spot on.
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by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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My wife and i have been through alot. but we both wanted it to work out. BOTH of you must be willing to try and make changes. Again, she may be relieved this happened, maybe she was lookin for a way out? Only you can know this is in retrospect.
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by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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And the truth comes out. but she reminds me of my lack of affection during 20 years as JW's and the baggage she and my daughter carry because of the hypocrisy she now sees in me. Now she is sobbing unconsolingly saying this is the last straw, that I have not cared or loved her all (yes, I was not a great husband) the years in the JW's, that i lorded it over and that any shred of repect is gone
I just read the thread. You were a piece of shit husband for a number of years. I was a piece of shit husband for years too. My wife and I will be celebrating our 10 th anniversary this coming year. The first 7 years I was drunk nearly 6 usually 7 days a week. I was a functional alcoholic. It affected my relationship with her. Not work, not other friends and never a DUI but it was devastatingly destructive to our marriage. I never hit her but punched holes in walls and doors. Once a wall near her. Needless to say I was an asshole. She caught me one looking at porn one drunken night. I thought she was sleeping. When I was sober the next day it was bad. “You betrayed me. This hurts me” ect. But we got through it. I only made the mistake of getting caught once. It took a while but she got over it.
This Dec 3 rd was 2 years for me being sober. This April would have been 3 years but I fell off the wagon from Nov 29 th to Dec 2 nd 2010. You see, the 7 months prior to those 3 or 4 days I was sober, but my wife who is not a big drinker, would drink around me or have one before I got home and I could smell it on her breath. I am extremely sensitive to smelling alcohol on others now that I’ve stopped drinking. I told her over and over how much it bothered me that she drank. And if she didn’t want me to drink she has to stop, that I can’t be around it.
For those few days I got really drunk. She went to the elders immediately. Now I felt betrayed by her. She didn’t say anything to me about it - just went and told them. I stopped drinking on Dec 3 rd and packed a bag and left her. I told her I wanted to still be in my son’s life but that I couldn’t be with her. I want to be sober and I can’t with you drinking around me. Long story short, we worked it out and she hasn’t had a drink in over 2 years either.
HERS MY POINT-Sorry for the long post but my point is sometimes you just have to move on and be willing to leave. Like others have said- she seems to have overreacted. But this doesn’t seem to be just about the porn. It may be the tipping point she was waiting and possibly looking for. Give it time…maybe a few weeks. See what happens. Then turn it around on her and say “if you want to throw away 40 years then that’s on you. I promise not to do this anymore, I didn’t think of the consequences and didn’t think how this would affect you…ECT” Chances are she will come around and trust you. If not she may not be worth the effort. But make sure you take your lumps and make the effort. See how it turns out. For me and my wife it took me being willing to move on to wake her up. GIVE IT MORE TIME. Best of luck!
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by dazed but not confused inmy son's birthday today.
it will be the first birthday either of us have ever celebrated.
we went to his favorite place for breakfast and latter we will be going to the denver aquarium.
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wha happened- or go to the library when there's another b-day or holiday celebration at school.
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by dazed but not confused inmy son's birthday today.
it will be the first birthday either of us have ever celebrated.
we went to his favorite place for breakfast and latter we will be going to the denver aquarium.
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EP- Yes. I'm not lookin forward to all that comes with teens. My 2 brother-in-laws are teens and ...wow! I have 9 years to go and will enjoy every moment.
whathappened- I plan on it.
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by dazed but not confused inmy son's birthday today.
it will be the first birthday either of us have ever celebrated.
we went to his favorite place for breakfast and latter we will be going to the denver aquarium.
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My son's birthday today. It will be the first birthday either of us have ever celebrated. We went to his favorite place for breakfast and latter we will be going to the Denver Aquarium. Then cake and presents. I think I'm just as excited to celebrate it as he is.
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Confidential Materials!
by Atlantis inall documents of important nature such as, our kingdom ministry, boe letters, forms, or other materials will now be sent only by email or private message communications.
they will not be posted out here on the board.
if someone else wants to post them, be my guest.. .. we have no other choice in this matter, and sending out confidential documents is better when it is done privately.
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Atlantis I PM'd you. Thank you
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New Here
by confusedteenager inhey,.
i've been lurking on this website for a few years now and finally made an account.
i have serious doubts about the organization in general and still have not made up my mind about what to believe.
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I have serious doubts about the organization in general and still have not made up my mind about what to believe.
Follow the rabbit down the hole. You will like what you find. WELCOME!
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I thought of mine because of this movie Dazed and Confused, very funny."That's what I love about these highschool girls man. I get older.... They stay the same age." lolI felt dazed when I was learning TTATT but then one day it was clear and I was no longer confused with what I had to do.
I thought of mine because of this movie Dazed and Confused, very funny."That's what I love about these highschool girls man. I get older.... They stay the same age." lol